The ceremony of a wedding is one of the most vital elements where you make your lifelong commitment to the one you love, and whether you choose to go traditional or write your own vows it’s one of the most important bits to get right. But do you know just how much of it you can personalise? We certainly didn’t until we spoke to Diana Saxby of Grace the Day, who was one of the exhibitors at Wedfest we attended a couple of weeks back, and we think it’s something that more people need to know about.
Custom ceremony scripts are becoming more and more popular, with many taking inspiration from poetry or song lyrics that resonate with them (a la Gavin and Stacey with those infamous Coldplay lyrics), but the customisation doesn’t need to stop there. You can make your ceremony ‘yours’ by including butterfly releases, lighting unity candles or hand-fasting for example – hey, maybe you’ll come up with something totally unique to you and your partner? You have put so much time and effort into organising the invitations, the seating plan and the dress, why overlook the vows?
One thing you do have to be mindful about is whether your venue will give permission for you to release a whole load of butterflies or doves, likelihood if you’re inside the answer is probably no, but it’s best to know the limitations of your venue before you get too caught up with your plans. Maybe releasing balloons is a nice alternative? They’re easy to tidy up and don’t leave any mess.
But why stop there when you could have your family or friends step in as your officiant? With some training they could lead your ceremony, which is a particularly touching addition to such a traditionally formal part of the day. It’s a popular choice in the States but there’s no reason it couldn’t be something you could explore here in the UK. It’s time brides took back control of their day rather than being dictated to, it’s yours to remember forever so why should you be denied your perfect ceremony?
Perhaps this is all sounding a little overwhelming, so Diana along with her colleague Marie from Circle of Life Ceremonies UK have organised a one-day workshop in the Cotswolds split into two halves. The first half will include professional guidance for writing your own ceremony script, and all of the practicalities associated with designing and organising your own bespoke ceremony. You will then enjoy a two course lunch inc. wine in the Potager Restaurant who use local fresh produce and vegetables from their own kitchen garden at Barnsley House, and then move onto the afternoon session where guest speaker Emma Sunderland from Emerald Paper Design will give an introduction to all things wedding stationery, including how to create your own bespoke stationery using modern calligraphy which you could use on your invitations, menus and save the dates. Set at the beautiful Barnsley House, it makes for a real treat of a day and is perfect for the bride-to-be and groom, close friends and interested family. You’ll receive tea and coffee all day long, and will go home with everything you need to start planning your own custom ceremony!
Buy tickets here: The Workshop
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Totally obsessed with weddings Hannah is the founder of Clarke and Wedgewood. With a background in marketing, she loves nothing more than discovering new bridal inspiration to share with the Clarke and Wedgewood readers